There is a bug called ‘worry’, we all get a sting in our teenage years and then its effect keeps growing and growing. Suddenly, we start to worry about everything from the weather to how we look, what we will wear, eat, drink, the list is endless. How I miss the days when I was young and had not a care in the world. I wonder if we can choose differently, I know that we can, so the simple answer is yes. I am sure, worrying has never solved anything in all my years of living but still I worry.
On a lighter note, my daughter was growing older and it was looking like she was going to pick up an accent that I wasn’t particularly comfortable with. I do not have a preference, but I wanted her to pronounce her words correctly. As parents, we worried about how that accent will affect her in future. You can say we worry too much but trust me, parents tend to worry about everything, it comes with the portfolio. I know that the cares of life are not always this simple, but with worry, we all experience the same set of emotions no matter how simple or complex the issues that confront us.
This week happens to be one of those periods in my life when I have wandered down the ‘Worry Lane’, so my thoughts are fresh out of the oven. Think of them as my personal notes on some ways that I chose to act differently. I found that sharing the burden with the right person is therapeutic, reflective of the English proverb that says, “a problem shared is a problem halved”. I gave myself a pep talk to remind me that what I have going is more than what does not seem to be working, and no matter what happens, as long as I have life, I have hope. I pulled out my planning hat and considered all scenarios, even the worst case. The scenario casting empowered me to see that all scenarios are navigable if, given all I know I make the right move like a skilful Chess-master.
At times like this, the method is usually not as composed as my write up makes it seem. I may stay down for a while, cry my eyes out, look upwards, sing a song, meditate on the word for that season, listen to stories from others who went through my situation and broke through, pray without ceasing, do a victory dance as I anticipate a new day, tell myself things like ‘I need to keep hope alive because a living dog is better than a dead lion’, cry again. In choosing to rise, I speak and act like a ‘Believer’ and gain victory over worry.
Back to my story, we changed cities and after one week in a new school, my daughter was speaking differently. I listened in amazement as I watched my daughter’s transformation. As I observed her, it felt like God was saying it does not take me anything to change anything. At that moment, the words of my dear friend echoed loud and clear, whenever we experienced bad days and slip into worry mode, she will always say ‘las las,* everything will be alright’. That phrase has become a source of encouragement helping us see the bigger picture with hope. One day, I found those same words in Scriptures,
“Relax, everything is going to be alright, Rest, everything is coming together (Jude 1:2a MSG Bible)
A reminder that no matter the cares of life, if we cast them upwards, everything will be alright.
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*las las – a Nigerian slang that means ‘in the end’
“It doesn’t cost God anything to change anything”.
Thanks for sharing.
I am reflecting as I read this on what my worry responses tend to be. We will find in our words and behaviour whether we are acting out of faith in the likelihood of a good outcome or pessimism over a negative outcome. A man was asked at the end of his life about the things he regretted the most. He answered, “the things that never happened”. I believe we often find out that in the end, most of the things we worry about presently, especially things beyond our control, turn out much differently.
I used to be a professional “worrier”. I used to worry in advance or in anticipation of a disaster. Like a baby, I had to deliberately cast my cares to God. Sometimes, the adult in me wondered if I wasn’t being too carefree. But the Holy Spirit reminds me that’s the reason why Jesus asked that we should be like children. So over time, I’ve learnt to “Let go and let God”. I still have the bout of worry bug creeping up on me, but I’ve also learnt to practice “careless ababdon” as a child of God. Thank you for this write-up. I really needed this reminder.
Amazing piece 👏👏👏
‘las las 😊 Everything is going to be alright ….
‘ Cast all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you..’
Wow am lifted by this beautiful piece, “las las everything will be alright ”
Thank you so much
You are welcome, we are glad that it inspired you.
Soul inspiring .
I really do love this .
God bless you .
“Las las…everything will be alright ” is another slogan we’ve adopted😊…..when we trust that God knows what He’s doing and that He loves us….it’s inevitable…we’ll stop worrying.
Thank you very much for your comment, Indeed las las, everything will be alright..
Wow! You guys just got me with this piece. I really use to worry a lot in the past and like you rightly said it doesn’t get the problems solved. I have over the years now learn to hand it over to the Master. Once in a while I still worry about certain issues however rightly put we need to relax more.
Thumbs up Thelma and ID, I really enjoyed reading this post.
Thank you for your comment. We are glad that this post was a timely reminder.
‘Worry is the price you pay for something you may never own’. I don’t remember where I got this quote but it has stayed with me for many years.
I also think keeping a stock of things I am grateful for, keeps me from excessive worry about the future.
Gratitude helps to provide perspective. Thank you for your comment.
This is a subtle reminder that worry never changes a thing. The chaos we experience when we are faced with uncertainty is natural.
Say again, we ought to remain calm and trust our ‘Father’, and remember His promises ; only then can we experience the peace He promised.
Thank you, we are glad that our post was helpful
wow! indeed everything is going to be fine. I’m blessed with this.
This blessed me. Thanks Lifeandbecoming for sharing.
Thank you, we are glad you were blessed.
Wow! Indeed, everything is going to be alright. It always is at the end. Time and chance happens to them all. Sometimes, it is commonplace to find that as humans we tend to worry over everything which solves nothing most times. Focusing more on what we haven’t accomplished and never really taking out the time to breathe for a while, relax, reflect and appreciate GOD for how far HE has brought us. Worry has never and will never solve anything. Rather than quit…try a new approach. Rather than complain…do something about it. Rather than.worry…think and ask the master strategist for directions. It shall all end in praises…Just, trust GOD!
Thank you for your comment.