As a child, I remember playing the video game ‘Street Fighter’, I liked the female fighters a lot and leaned in their direction for choice of players. Street Fighter allowed me to do things that could only happen in my imaginations. One of the female fighters always started a fight with the words, ‘Go easy on me’. I wondered why she said those words because she had the ability to fight any of the others. I guess it may just have been a tactics to play on the psychic of her opponent.
Those words ring true in our relationships with others. In the words of John Maxwell, “Everyone you come into contact with is fighting a battle”. Some people are going through hell, while others are in hell. If only we can see what goes on in the real world of others, maybe, just maybe, we will go easy on them.
There is a story commonly told about a man who had given up on life because nothing seemed to be working. He decided to take his life. As he attempted to commit suicide, a passerby observing what he was about to do asked if he could have his clothes. At that moment, he realised that even though he felt his life was bad, someone else was fighting a fiercer battle.
Unfortunately, our faces mask a million truths, our well-layered makeup hides a billion bruises and an ocean of tears. A lot of people around us are ‘walking problems’, carrying a burden that pulls them down daily, been dealt a hard blow by life. While some bounce back like a ball, others stay down for a long time or forever. Even though they say a problem shared is half solved, some problems remain a mystery hidden deep down in the heart. All you see are physical manifestations like silence, inexplainable anger, use of bad words, senseless confrontations, bitterness or sarcasm because ‘hurting people hurt people’. When you see the tip of the iceberg, remember that beneath the surface lies a different world that can only be summed up in two words ‘down’ and ‘out’.
An unanswered hello, a call not returned, a message not acknowledged should naturally trigger annoyance but why not give the benefit of doubt instead, clarify before jumping into conclusion and taking action. Life is hard enough, do not make yourself someone else’s prayer point; Heaven responds to persistent prayers. Do your part daily not to complicate the lives of the people that you meet.
As I fight my battles and you fight yours, don’t compare, judge or try to figure me out; if you can’t lift me, leave me. If you have not walked in my exact shoes, you may never understand my tears, comprehend my battle cries or even my victory dance. There is always light at the end of the tunnel and joy indeed comes with the morning but while I wait, please go easy on me!
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