When a bottle is empty, it has no identity. It is just an empty space, but fill it with coke and it becomes a bottle of coke. Fill it with clean water, it becomes a bottle of clean water, with dirty water, a bottle of dirty water. The content gives the bottle its identity.
This is how I believe marriage is. I hear people make statements like marriage is good or marriage is bad. I think marriage is like an empty bottle and depending on the kind of people that are put in it, it becomes either a good or a bad marriage.
However, a good marriage goes beyond having two good people or two people who are “in love” as we know love today. These set of people do not make a good marriage. A good marriage is made up of two people who are committed to each other. People who are committed to the cause. People who are committed to having a successful marriage to the end. People who understand that the road may not be easy, that there will be ups and downs but they are committed to seeing it through. People who understand that being committed means the same thing as being “in love”.
Let us explore what real love is from the One who is called love.
Jesus said “if you love me, keep my commandments”John 14:15 (NKJV)
For God so loved the word that He gave His only begotten son.John 3:16a (NKJV)
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud, it does not dishonor others, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered. It keeps no records of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth, it always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres, LOVE NEVER FAILS!1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (NIV)
In the scriptures highlighted above, particularly the last one, did you notice that Love is a verb? It is an action. Love is either doing or not doing. That is commitment and with commitment, love never fails.
Back to our bottles. In marriage, the man, a full bottle of let’s say Coke is expected to marry a woman, a full bottle of Fanta. (full by means of all their life’s experiences that have formed the single persons they have become). And they are expected to become ONE full bottle. This can only be possible if they both pour out half their bottles by putting away some of their views, strongly held opinions, and sometimes even some friends, to accommodate their spouse’s.
When they join together, it will no longer be a bottle of coke or fanta, it will be a completely different flavour called “Their Own Marriage”
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