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More than a day….

It is not unusual to hear some people refer to days like Valentine, Birthdays and Anniversaries as just another day. I think differently, first of all, every day is a blessing in my world. Another chance to do right, live better and do more.

Special days are even more important as they mark the start of something new. Each recurrence presents an opportunity to evaluate how well you have done, applaud yourself or course correct.

The thought of an applause worthy Special day gives me an adrenaline rush since I get to give myself a treat for a job well done.

O well, you can say I love celebrations in whatever form, after all we only get to live once. So when our tenth anniversary came knocking, we could not resist the urge to celebrate.

As I dreamed up ways to make this more than just a day, an amazing Black Friday Deal too good to be true popped up on my screen. You can call it a coincidence, I will choose miraculous. I watched my dream escape to the island of Cape Verde become a reality; the right price and an irresistible deal and Voila, Project Verde was activated.

Four hours later, we touched down on the beautiful island of Cape Verde somewhere off the West African coast surrounded by the Atlantic ocean. Blue beaches, lovely resorts, great foods, beautiful sunset and world class hospitality.

Project Verde Goals accomplished…….

A well deserved celebration of ten awesome years of growing and learning together. As we celebrated, we are reminded that we are better today because yesterday we chose tomorrow together. We believed, we worked and now the project continues.

Life is a project with milestones along the way, so think of today as a milestone in the ‘Love’ department. Even though, some folks say ‘love don’t cost a thing’, love does cost something, it is in the action and the sacrifice. It is never idle, it is always doing. So whenever an opportunity presents itself for love to be expressed, sound the alarm and make it loud and clear that you love and you love for real. Don’t just sit back and watch today go by, find a box of chocolate or whatever tickles you and take sometime out to celebrate love and friendship.

Because love is a beautiful thing, make this Valentine more than just a day…………

Happy Valentine Day!!!

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Never too late…..

I often marvel at the elasticity of the human spirit, something in us keeps striving, keeps pressing and keeps trying until we have more than an aha moment.

Meet Ms. Grace or ‘mummy’ as i like to call her and yes this is a real person and a real story.

A few months ago, we all listened to a young lady speak to us at a Women Conference on the topic, ‘Dare to Dream’.

Mummy is in her late fifties and I found it surprising that she was as excited as we younger folks. Fast forward to a few weeks later, she whispered to me, I have started sewing again. Even though I don’t know if that spark lit a fire, I was just excited that someone took the learning and acted on it.

Exactly one year later, while gisting away, she mentioned a store, I didn’t probe much because we were talking about more important things. On a Sunday morning right after church, she slipped an invitation into my hand.

Mummy was opening a restaurant, she called it ‘Souper Woman Kitchen’; Souper I guess because of the mainly soup dishes that she will be serenading her customers with.As I look more closely at the word ‘Souper’, I think of the closest English word to it ‘Super’. 

Ms. Grace is an example of so many ‘super’ humans out there striving, pressing and demonstrating the elasticity of the human spirit.

At close to 60, Ms. Grace listened to a young lady tell us that if we don’t take action, our dreams will remain what there are ‘dreams’.

She took action, not just one, several little steps. Souper Woman Kitchen opened, I missed the opening but heard that she is excited about this new opportunity.

As I reflect on this story and my interactions with Ms. Grace,  I recall that she was always on time for all meetings (Discipline), listened with intent  (Deliberate), acted on what she heard (Determined) and was very comfortable around young people (Teachable). I find that you gain a lot of fresh insight from being around younger folks.

Now and in the years to come, it is not OK to dream and write goals, be like Ms. Grace and take action.

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STONE-FACED

Because the Sovereign Lord helps me, I will not be disgraced. Therefore, I have set my face like a stone, determined to do His will. And I know that I will not be put to shame.

Isaiah 50: 7 NLT

When ever I read the Bible these days, I try to read it like a child and I ask simple questions and wonder why certain examples, phrases, figures of speech etc were used. Sometimes, I get answers and sometimes I don’t. But I find that when I do this, it gives me more insight and a deeper understanding of different verses of Scripture and it greatly helps in their application.

To the verse above, I wondered why the use of a stone to describe the person that is determined to do God’s will. Apart from the obvious rigidity of a stone, I decided to explore more and and look at some simple characteristics of a Stone.

  • A stone does not change the mood of its face. It wears only one look.
  • A stone does not argue.
  • If you throw a stone, it will not come back to you.
  • A stone is rugged.
  • When a stone is crushed, it multiplies into smaller parts and fills the earth.

 Are there similarities to a person determined to do God’s will? Let’s see.

  • I wear Joy & Gratitude, not determined by situations or emotions but it is determined by who I am and whose I am – Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. 1 Thessalonians 5:16
  • I go where I am sent – Then I said, “Here am I! Send me” – Isaiah 6:8
  • When I go, I do not look back – Forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which lie ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus – Philippians 3:13-14
  • I am rugged – I know how to live on almost anything or with everything. I have learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is with a full stomach or empty, with plenty or little. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me – Philippians 4:12-13
  • When I am crushed, I multiply and fill the earth – Now those who were scattered after the persecution that arose over Stephen traveled as far as Phoenicia, Cyprus, and Antioch, preaching the word…. Acts 11:19

I am Stone-faced. Christ is the foundational Stone and I am built on Him. The world expects us to be flexible, blown by every wind of doctrine, move with the times and succumb to every imagination of man, but because of who I am, some things are unchangeable. I am planted on the ‘Rock’ and when you are planted on a rock, you will grow, experience new things, go through changing times and seasons, but your roots remain solid, immovable, and unchangeable. Rather, they grow deeper into the rock from where they draw their strength and identity.

Note to self – Set your face as a stone as you journey to Alpha.

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TOOLBOX

“We are nothing but pencils in the hands of the creator”

This is a popular phrase we all know and use, meaning God’s absolute control over us. I was teaching this to my children recently, telling them how as pencils in the hand of God, He can use us to write messages to the world. My daughter quickly said “we are also erasers in God’s hand too”. I said No! God wants to write messages not erase them (my closed mind) then she replied, “see dad, God can use us to erase the things that He doesn’t want in the world, like sickness”. My son joined, “we are like Markers too, God can use us to write and touch people and make it permanent in their lives just like His word” My daughter said again, “we are rulers too” and they both went on and on about the different things we can be in God’s hands. I was amazed at how God was speaking through them. This session started out as with me as the teacher but I ended up becoming the student. Amazing ways God speaks to us…

Out of the mouth of babes and sucklings thou hast perfected praise

Matt 21:16b

So it dawned on me, we are all but tools that can be used in anyway God pleases.

  • God used Moses as a pen to write five books to the world. He also used him as a weapon against the mighty Egypt.
  • God used Jonah as a ruler to straighten the people of Nineveh.
  • God used David as an eraser to erase Goliath (This is my son, not me).
  • God used John as a loudspeaker crying out in the wilderness.
  • God used Jesus as an eraser to erase sin, sickness and death.
  • God used the Apostles and Paul as pens to convey His unfailing love to us in the New Testament.
  • God uses the Holy Spirit as a Marker to permanently seal us as His own and to imprint His words in our hearts.
  • God will use Jesus as a Vehicle to bring us to Alpha.

God has a grand Toolbox and He has made us different tools in it to be used on the earth. When we meet Him, He will ask us how we used the tool He made us to be.

Note to self – Are you thinking of what tool God has made you? There is only one way to find out, Yield totally to Him.

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All

This week, my household encountered the music of ‘For King and Country’. We have listened to a few of their songs without realising who sang them, but we spent a lot of time watching a video of their song ‘Amen’. The video is amazing with lots of meaningful aesthetics and each scene symbolized an aspect of our Christian walk. We had it on replay for a looong time but a certain line of the song lingered longer…

“You gave it All for me, I will give it All for you”

”All’ is a tall order for sure but it is exactly what we are called to do. For God so loved the world that he gave his ”All’, in receiving His gift, we too come into this covenant of loving exchange.
Jesus told to the young ruler that anyone who wants to follow Him must be willing to give up All. What does that mean? It simply means anyone who wants to follow Jesus must be willing to give up everything especially ‘self’. By accepting the lordship of Christ, you simply agreed to give up ‘All’.

The explanation is the simple part, the action is where I suspect it gets challenging. God is not looking for the lukewarm, you cannot ask Him to set your heart on fire and then stay warm. Anyone on fire is hot, hot, hot.

Our Christian walk is a walk of daily surrender, in essence, when you wake up every morning, you reaffirm your allegiance – an act of surrender, and then you walk out your salvation with fear and trembling. Working out your salvation is fancy for saying when you interact with the world, put Jesus on display in the way that you speak, act and think. It means acting like Jesus will, it means knowing what Jesus will do and doing it. A lot of us know what Jesus will do, we just don’t do it.

What is All? It could be everything and anything that you hold dear.

  • God may not tell you to go and sell all your stuff like He told the young rich ruler but if He does, would you?
  • God may not ask you to give up your child like He did when He tested Abraham but if He does, would you?
  • God may not ask you to give up a luxurious life and travel to unknown lands like many missionaries have been called to but if He does, would you?
  • God may not ask you to give up your last meal to feed a stranger as He did to the widow of Zarephath but if He does, would you?
  • God may not ask you to be His voice in the face of danger and persecution like He did with Paul, but if He does, would you?

Don’t be in a hurry to answer these questions, just let them sink in as we do daily. Then pray for the grace to daily surrender your cares, burdens and worries and yield totally to His will.

Note to Self – Step back and let God take the lead.

For your listening pleasure, here is a link to the song – https://youtu.be/jThYchneZvw

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The 7000

I was listening to a song recently and these words jumped out at me “For we’ve settled the question, we’ve made our choice”. The more I ponder on the song, the more I realize that the writers of the song were very intentional about those words. My thoughts… when you answer a question, there’s room for counter answers and further discussions but when you ‘settle’ a question, you have closed the chapter on further answers and discussions.

The song talks about how despite what seems to be happening around the world, God always has a people. The song has become quite a comfort for us that no matter the direction of the world, no matter how in the minority we think we are, God always has a people and that we are not alone. It is similar to the time when the Prophet Elijah thought that he was the only servant of God left, and God replied to him;

“Yet, I have reserved 7000 in Isreal, all whose knees have not bowed to Baal and every mouth that has not kissed him” 1 Kings 19:18.

In the world today, there are many Baal’s that come in all forms and shapes, preventing us from settling the question about where we stand. Generally, Baal is anything that takes the place of God in your life. This may sound vague as we may say we don’t have any idols that we bow down to. But maybe we do, not just in a physical form. They come in things we are unwilling to give up, things that we make excuses for, and when we make clear bold lines thin and cross them.

To check yourself, here’s a “check o meter” question I got asked recently. What ‘CONSUMES’ most of your thoughts during your free time?

Notice the word consumes? If a particular thought, need, desire, want or craving takes up more than 80% of your free time thoughts, you may just be on the verge of bowing down to Baal.

If you must journey to Alpha, God has to be first, He has to be our destination set and target locked. Just like a GPS map, no matter how many wrong turns you take, you will always hear that voice “recalculating” always trying to take you back to your locked destination.

To ‘settle’ my question, I breathe God, I love God, I think God, I live God, I walk God, I talk God, I work God, I act God, then I show God. (Ref: Matthew 22:37-39)

Will we make mistakes? yes, we will, but just like the GPS, we always have that voice recalculating and pointing us back to Alpha.

Note to Self – It is not Perfection but Commitment that makes us a part of the 7000.

For your listening pleasure, here is a link to the song – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xws7I6iX8Jo

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Higher Ground

“For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son that whosoever believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life”.

John 3:16

A story of love, sacrifice, forgiveness and grace will be shared across platforms and altars this weekend as we all celebrate Easter.

This week, we reflect on these things:

  • God made a shift in His walk with man, calling us to fellowship and a relationship on higher ground.
  • The veil was torn once and for all, the ultimate sacrifice, not of lambs or bulls, The lamb of God who takes away the sins of the world.
  • God moved from temples made of human hands to His original dwelling place when He breathe His spirit and gave life to man
  • In place of justice, He gave us mercy backed with grace to live a life wholly dedicated to Him
  • He gave us the Holy Spirit to be our comforter, intercessor, giving life to His words in our hearts
  • Because He died, there is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for we are all one in Christ Jesus. Galatians 3:28 NKJV
  • Behold, we are now new creatures in Christ. He calls us a chosen generation, a royal priesthood and a holy nation.

I have a new identity, it comes with an eternal reward and an earthly cross. I will have to live by simple obedience to His word, daily denying myself and consecrating myself to Him as I work out my salvation with fear and trembling. I know that just like Him, the world will hate me, cancel me, misunderstand me but just like Him, I will continue to love and forgive. I may have other identities but my identity in Christ will always guide the expression of my other identities. I know that the day I said yes to Him, my Christianity became more important than my race, tribe, gender or any other human categorization assigned to me. So when the world offends, I will not allow bitterness to take root, I will always stand by my Christian convictions, not because it is easy but because in saying yes, I agreed to love, yes, even my enemies.

He modelled the life, extending a call to do everything opposite to what my flesh desires. Love your enemies, pray for those who hate you, forgive seventy times seven times are just a few examples of a different type of standard, one that is beyond human comprehension.

Finally, He laid everything at the cross, the old rugged cross that continues to makes a difference in my life. Three days later, He rose and later ascended with a promise to return for those whose feet are planted on Higher ground.

We wish you a Happy Easter Celebration! He has risen and the Church keeps marching on!

A Call to Correct

Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; The rod of discipline [correction administered with godly wisdom and lovingkindness] will remove it far from him.
Proverbs 22:15 AMP

I love Proverbs 22:15 and the words highlighted by the amplified version for clarification help to give additional guidance. First, I will like to clarify that when the Bible admonishes us to chastise, it is supposed to be an act of love, not aggression or abuse. I have often wondered how many children have been lost because we are too obsessed with being cool parents and ‘spare the rod’. I have heard all the arguments for and against, but it seems to me that these days, everyone is too afraid of the potential for abuse that we now watch children wallow in foolishness even openly and expect that by some twist of fate they will self-correct. In my little existence, I have come to realise that everything happens when someone does something deliberately. Children cannot be left to self-correct. I am a firm believer that responsible parents, not the government need to step up and do the right thing that ‘Love’ will do.

So let me step back to explain my understanding of the rod of correction or discipline (ROC). It represents your child’s language of correction.  Every child is different and responds to correction differently. While growing up, my parents spanked me not with the intention to hurt but to register in my memory that if you don’t want to feel that way then behave properly. Guess what, I quickly outgrew the pain, for some reason, my hands developed resistance or maybe I trained my brain to norm the pain. As I grew older, ‘The talk’ became my language of correction, it works on my inside and I could literally hear my parents’ voice linger for longer than I wanted it to.

Correction in love will not kill a child.  Looking back at all my childish foolishness,  I am grateful that someone somewhere was bold enough to spank me when they had to, courageous enough to give the talk when that was needed and not too tired to act because in reality looking away is the easier path to parenting.

So here are a few tips on correction:

  • Spanking when required has its place but should not be abused or used to cover up for bad parenting
  • No single mode of correction works all the time, every child has a unique language and as they grow older, it may evolve as mine did
  • For correction to happen, it has to be done in the right place, through the right mode and at the right time
  • Correction is not a one-time event, it is continuous, deliberate and targeted at producing a better behaved and well-rounded child
  • As parents, we should examine our parenting style regularly, observe how other parents interact with their children and pick the good, admit when we have made a mistake and be open to learning from it
  • I acknowledge that some people may find this statement challenging, but I have learned that apologizing to my children when I am in the wrong is an excellent example to them. It demonstrates that when I make a mistake, I am humble enough to take responsibility for it. Remember when it comes to parenting, ‘more is caught than taught’; so let your teaching align with your living

On a final note, we are called to parent out of love, not fear or obligation. Parenting is not a chore, it is an act of love. Love is patient, kind and reliable – love never fails. It is our prayer that we will love our children enough not to fail in our responsibilities towards them.

The cost of ‘sparing the rod’ is too high, so the call to Parent is even higher. Parents, guardians and society should heed the words of Proverbs.

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Eyes on Us

Children learn a lot by observing, they have their eyes laser-focused on you even when you are not aware of it. My husband and I agree that our parents are our greatest influencers. I see a lot of traits in my husband that make me say, “the apple did not fall too far from the tree after all”.  At age 84, my father-inlaw shows up early to all events, even when it is obvious that the event will start four hours late. So when my husband makes us show up almost four hours ahead of our flight time, I know whose son he is.

As parents, we are the first example that our children follow but if they don’t find us worthy to follow, they look out, sometimes within but sometimes way out there. So be careful who you surround them with, when you tolerate certain personalities within your space, you indirectly endorse them, presenting their path as an alternative for your children to follow. I recall that a few years ago, I had someone with a questionable character in my home, as I shared my tales of woe with a senior friend, her words rang a big bell. She said to me, ‘If you cannot live with the consequences of the impact that this individual may have on your children, then you need to let them go’. In the emotional battle that raged within me, those words gave me the courage to do what I needed to do. Many times, we have consciously or unconsciously mortgaged our children’s future because of the convenience of retaining the familiar. We mask it in the words, ‘the devil I know is better than the angel I don’t know”. To that I will say, no ‘devil’ should have a place in your home, no matter how convenient or inconvenient it will be to you. As a rule of thumb, always do right by your children. I have found that all the other balls that you juggle in life always find a way to bounced back when dropped (work, church etc) but the consequences of dropping the family ball always comes with far-reaching consequences. So prioritize the children always.

‘Showing them the way’ is the easiest parenting style, if you want them to be kind and respectful, be kind and respectful yourself. Children only do what they know, and they only know what they know from what they see or watch, they only watch or see what is shown to them. Children hear what you do, not what you say, so watch what you do. I recall a time when my husband was watching one of the Avenger movies and my four-year-old daughter walked in on a fighting scene and said, “Daddy, why are you watching the devil?” We were both confused by her question and then she reminded us what we told her earlier. Apparently, in one of our dramatic parenting moments, we must have told her that only the devil fights. So for her, the sight of people fighting equals watching the devil. At that moment, we knew that more than our words, the things they see us do is the bigger message. We haven’t stopped watching Avengers but we are more sensitive about time and place.

Our final word today is a gentle reminder that Christian parents are called not just to be parents but to be Christ-like.

We pray that our whole life will point our children daily to Jesus.

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Are you there?

During our morning prayers, I overheard my husband say the words, “Father, your presence is all we need today”. Those lines are not new but today, they stopped my own prayers and my thoughts began to wander, as I stopped to ponder on those words.

Father – a parent figure; Presence – a state of mind or physical location.

When we finished praying, I decided to drill my husband on the obvious.

Me: Why is God’s presence all we need for today?
Idorenyin: (wondering look on his face that screamed ‘Seriously’)
Me: Just flow with me, we are going somewhere
Idorenyin: His presence guarantees our safety, direction and provision
Me: Exactly! and that is what our children deserve from us as parents; I exclaimed like I just had a light bulb moment.

That dialogue gave birth to today’s article – ‘Are you there?’. The answer could be Present, Absent, Absent but Present or Present but Absent.

• Present – physically and emotional there;
• Absent – not available;
• Present but Absent – physically present but emotionally distance or absent.
• Absent but Present – physically absent but present through other media like written words of instructions.

I will like to dwell on ‘Present but absent. Is it possible to be present but absent, oh yes! I have experienced each one, so I speak from experience. I have had days when I had to be physically absent from my children for work or pleasure. I have also had other days where I was right there in the living room with my children but while my body was there, my mind and attention was trapped somewhere else…maybe Instagram or WhatsApp chat, who knows. So while my little ones chatted away, my responses gave me off as being present but absent.

My children are a bold bunch and I suspect they must have called me out a few times. God bless them for keeping me accountable.

One of the key responsibility of a parent is Presence. Like my husband prayed, a lot of times, our presence is all our children need to guarantee safety, provision and direction. I will say it again, you cannot outsource or delegate your presence to your spouse, sibling, relative or staff. As long as you are alive and well, your physical, mental and spiritual location should be where your child is most of the time, especially in their formative years. How else will you train up a child in ‘the way’? You can only shape and reshape if you are there to observe a deviation that requires redirecting. When these children are old and trust me, the time goes by faster than you think, you can release them to the world, knowing fully well that your training will guide them through life.

Question for Us – Where are you? Present, Absent, Absent but Present or Present but Absent!

Parenting is very important to God, no wonder children are asked to honour their father and mother that it may be well with them – the first commandment with a promise.

“Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with promise: “that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.”
Ephesians 6:2‭-‬3 NKJV

It is our prayer that as you embark on this important work of parenting God’s generals, you will be Present and honourable. God bless you!

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The Office of a Parent

Many years back, on two occasions, I had the opportunity to speak to our church on Parenting. The messages were titled ‘Like Arrows’ derived from the Bible verse in Psalms 127:4 and ‘Godly seed’ from Malachi 2:15.

As I prepared for those two sermons, one thing stood out clearly, parenting is not a natural progression after marriage. It is a calling, it is ministry work, it is intended for discipleship. We have heard it said so many times that your family is your first congregation. One of the reasons why God loved Abraham so much was because He trusted that he will command his household after Him. ‘Command’ is a strong choice of word, quite deliberate to shows that parents have the power to nudge their children along a godly path.

Every new couple at some point in their relationship, must sit down and ask themselves a few questions.  Why do we want to be conduits for life? Are we able to give life beyond birth? Are we responsible enough for ourselves to lead another? What plans do we have for a child?  God as our model parent says over each one of us that ‘He knew us even before we were born and He had plans for each one of us, not just any plan – good plans, meant to bring us not just to any end but to an expected end.’ (Jeremiah 29:11 NKJV)

Every parent or expecting parent should ponder on these three questions:

1. Do you know the child that you have or so desperately desire? Children have needs, they require love, attention, time, sacrifice and most of all, ‘You’. Are you aware of this, have you given enough of yourself as required? Did you think of the cost of parenting before you walked this path?

2. What plans do you have for your child? Does it align with heaven’s plans? Is the path that you have carved out, taking your child to that expected end? Have you surrounded your child with the right enablers? Are you present just like God is, to guide on the best pathway or have you delegated or outsourced your mantle?

3. What is the expected end? Every parent wants their child to be successful, whatever that definition of success is. Every child should be equipped for the world,  life here and in the world to come. Every moment with your child while they are still children, is a teaching moment. A time will come when they will have their own minds and what will manifest is what has been so carefully programmed in it by intention or default. A time too will come when they will also teach, will you be proud of the script that you handed down?

I pray that the eyes of our understanding are enlightened to the calling that is placed on those of us who are parents or desire the office of a parent. Yes, parenting is an office, even though no one had written out a job description for it, one thing is required “a heart that wants to see generations of godly seed birth”.

Note to Self – God requires a godly seek from me.

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Paper Trail

Have you ever tried chasing a piece of paper that is being blown away by the wind, Pretty difficult right? In most cases, you never catch it.

To chase this paper, you’ll need to focus on the paper, the wind direction and nothing else. Often, the paper falls to the ground, stays for a few seconds, attracting you to it and off it goes again. Almost like the paper or the wind is playing tricks on you. Oh! I forgot to mention that you’ll also have to contend with oncoming vehicles. So much energy, just to catch a piece of paper that you may never get. Finally, you stop and wonder why you even bothered, you hiss and turn around and the paper goes on its never-ending journey riding where the wind takes it, just like a stray balloon or kite.

Depending on how long you put into the chase, you would have probably wasted a few minutes or more. But do you know that those minutes can turn to days, months and years when you consider some of the things that we all chase in our lifetime? We risk losing out on the things that really matters and even stand the chance of hurting others in the process. I guess the following questions are worth asking: Is it really worth it? What are we giving up for the chase? What risks are we taking for the chase? And whether or not we catch ‘It’, will we look back and regret lost time?

The book of Ecclesiastes talks a lot about chasing things in life that in the end, comes to nothing.

“I observed everything going on under the sun, and really, it is all meaningless – like chasing the wind”. (Ecclesiastes 1:14 NLT)

I remember talking to a friend a few years ago who was a full time Employee, an active Politician, a Pastor, a Husband/Father and was doing a PhD at the time. His family seemed to be paying the heavy price for all the caps he was wearing. I gave him this advice back then. I told him to pay attention to the cap that has the greatest potential of pulling all others down if it falls. I reminded him that the crowd that comes with all other caps will be there to laugh and celebrate with you, but only one of these caps will be there to cry with you. Take your pick and focus on the right cap – the cap with responsibilities and consequences that stay with you to the end.

Back to analogy of the flying paper, sometimes, depending on what information is on the paper being blown away, losing the paper may be too costly. You should carefully, tactfully and cautiously chase, while looking out for your safety and the safety of others around you.

Not everything lost is worth chasing. While you decide on what is worth chasing, always remember to strike the right balance between the chase and the cost.

Note to self – Sometimes, in letting some things fly away, the wind may just blow them right back to you. Choose wisely

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